WIW 01/17/13 - Bipolar Outfit

My emotions were all over the place this morning when I got dressed. I was determined to banish the blues, so I threw on a hectically colorful top. At the same time, I felt like I needed lots of structure to bolster my forced cheerfulness so threw on the black jacket and trousers. The blue booties were an afterthought. I'm not sure if this outfit is successful or not, but it got me through the day.

What I am sure of, though, is that YLF is a generous and supportive community. I don't think I would have made it through this week with my chin up if it weren't for your support.

I've got some REALLY good news to share! I confronted management today and explained to them that the review process had been demoralizing and that I didn't feel as if I had any concrete things I could do to improve in the future.

The amazing thing is they actually listened to me. They shredded my first evaluation form and rewrote it using my suggestions. It turned out to be a lot more useful for my development and helped reassure me that I was on the right track. In addition, they will be changing the entire review process next year. Some of the changes were due to my feedback, particularly when it comes to what kinds of critique are constructive.

Chalk one up for the little guy today.

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  • Kristin SF replied 8 years ago

    You look amazing in this outfit. Classy, sophisticated, colorful, bright, and breezy. Love every piece of it, including your sassy expression! :-)

    And LOVE your feedback on the review process. You are so in the right and your manager really should be ashamed of herself. She is no manager. I hope she has learned from this experience!

  • Lyn D. replied 8 years ago

    Good For You!!
    You Looked FAB too!!

  • Amy replied 8 years ago

    Thanks, Kristin. They did a lot of apologizing, so I think the message got through!

  • annagybe replied 8 years ago

    AWESOME! You look great!

  • Sveta replied 8 years ago

    Great outfit and great news! You show them, girl!

  • Transcona Shannon replied 8 years ago

    ROCK ON SISTER!!! That is fantastic news Amy - I'm so glad you spoke to them about this and that they took it seriously.

    And your outfit ROCKS too! I adore the booties with the top - fabulous bright and cheery outfit.

  • Jamie replied 8 years ago

    *applause* You go, girl! Taking up for yourself like that takes a lot of courage, and I'm so glad that they listened and then acted on your experience. This is great!

    Your outfit is great, too. The blue booties peeking out from under your trousers is my favorite part! Love!!

    Here's to a better end than the start of your week, and to a much deserved weekend!

  • Jenava replied 8 years ago

    Good news! Good for you...way to stand up for yourself. I'm so happy and proud for you. Woo Hoo!

  • rae replied 8 years ago

    Gorgeous outfit, though I more want to say congrats on your successful confrontation! That must be a load off your shoulders!

  • Beth Ann replied 8 years ago

    Amy --- This is a classic meets artistic look that is quite cheerful, but definitely ready for work. The booties are my favorite bit, too, and I hope to see more of them.

    Congrats on standing up for yourself and improving the workplace in the process! Hope you have a relaxing, recharging weekend!

  • MsLuna replied 8 years ago

    I love this outfit Amy! I love the bold colours in contrast to black!

    And kudos on confronting management! One really does have to communicate and speak their mind and it's better done than resenting them or regretting you have not confronted! So proud of you!

  • crow replied 8 years ago

    So much for your not being assertive enough to get anything done! Congrats Amy--for being appropriately assertive, for instigating a much-needed overhaul of a faulty system and for handling a tough situation with style and grace. Wow!

  • Diana replied 8 years ago

    YAY!!!!!! So glad that you stood up for yourself and were heard!

    Love the outfit - the blue booties are awesome!

  • CocoLion replied 8 years ago

    This is just all kinds of chic. I've been loving where you've been taking your style lately Amy.

    And good for you for speaking up constructively and good for them for listening!

  • Deborah replied 8 years ago

    Well done! I am so glad you spoke up and what a great result.

    Your outfit is totally fab. It shows you are confident and competent and I love the blue boots, they are completely unexpected and I LOVE that:)

  • Hil replied 8 years ago

    I love the cobalt blue shoes and I love that they echo colours in the top!

    Good on you for standing up at work! May things only look up from here!

  • kkards replied 8 years ago

    WOW! Good for you!

    and you look great as well. the shirt! great! and i love the blue shoes,

    isn't amazing how what we wear can really impact how we feel that day?

  • Asingh replied 8 years ago

    Amy, that's a great outfit. I love the purple dangly earrings. Glad to know that you brought out your concerns with the management and they gave you a patient hearing. Also, just wanted to know if you're a lawyer? I'm asking you cause I am one.

  • rute replied 8 years ago

    OMG! If that's what come up when you are emotional, you don't have to worry!
    Perfect! So chic and elegant!
    I'm glad all went well at work!

  • Mona replied 8 years ago

    Amy, this was so courageous of you. I am really happy that they heard you. Those blue booties are so fun.

  • Zapotee replied 8 years ago

    OMG, I am so happy for you. It is very rare to be listened in such a big way. I very happy for you.

    And the outfit, stellar:)

  • Claudia replied 8 years ago

    Great going, Amy! Kudos for productively standing up for yourself -- and for fairness. The big extra benefit is how much doing that helps others in the future, a rewarding legacy for having the backbone to speak up.

    And, as always, you look beautiful.

  • catherine replied 8 years ago

    Wow and wow. I refer both to your extraordinary outfit and your consummate professionalism. Good on you.

  • moira replied 8 years ago

    I am doing a happy dance about your review. GOOD for you for standing up to that nonsense.
    You look great in this outfit, lovely and confidant and you proved to them that that is what you are!

  • kimlee replied 8 years ago

    Go Amy! I am so happy that you stood up for yourself and spoke with the management team. Love these look - powerful, stylish, and all around awesome!

  • Amy replied 8 years ago

    Thank you so much, everyone. You are so nice!

    Asingh, I'm a paralegal. I do a lot of the same work as associates (analyzing documents, drafting pleadings, interviewing clients/witnesses, etc.), but can't provide legal advice or argue in court, etc.

  • teri replied 8 years ago

    that's a great work outfit and congrats for standing up for yourself

  • Tricia replied 8 years ago

    Love your outfit, and I'm so glad to hear your good news! Yay for standing up for yourself!

  • Debbie replied 8 years ago

    Very stylish!

  • Suz replied 8 years ago


    What fantastic news, Amy. You look wonderful and you ARE wonderful. I am so glad you stood up for yourself. This was brilliant, and I have a feeling they are going to look at you with renewed respect. Congratulations on looking and acting the part of the beautiful, smart, articulate, and creative professional that you are!!

  • replied 8 years ago

    Late to this thread, but good for you! I am glad that your comments were taken seriously.

  • texstyle replied 8 years ago

    So happy to hear this Amy! Esp. glad to hear you made a point to communicate your feelings and work to get them resolved. Very pro-active and positive approach.

    AND you looked great all week too!

  • JulieJohn replied 8 years ago

    Amy, no time to read others' comments, but I absolutely ADORE your outfit! The zing of pink at the earlobes really is a surprising perk, and the black, ... just ooh la la! You are wearing IT instead of it wearing you, if ya know what I mean.

    So proud of your victory for Team Underdog! You are my hero, because you stood up for what is right in a constructive way. I love the response you got. Isn't it funny how that happens sometime, a really great response after a really crappy event? It's almost like the universe was daring you to take a stand, and then rewarded you for doing it. Couldn't you just have gotten the reward without all the heartache? Ah, well.

    You are a champion.

  • siniestra replied 8 years ago

    love ur outfit specially that blouse!!! tho i don't see if very well the patter it reminds me the handmade embroidery of guatemala

  • rachylou replied 8 years ago

    Good for you! Don't make me soap-box as human performance improvement professional and performance reviews - esp. yearly ones. The first thing to do to improve performance, you know, is to chuck them all together.

    Love the peeps of blue in the shoes and the pink in the earrings. The whole outfit sings!

  • cciele replied 8 years ago

    So glad you gave your input and they listened! Woohoo!

    And I love how the booties and earrings pick up on the colors of your shirt. You look wonderful!

  • dizzys replied 8 years ago

    This is amazing news! So glad you decided to escalate err...discuss the matter with management.

  • stitchywitch replied 8 years ago

    I love the blue shoes with that top. And good for you for standing up for yourself! My husband had a similar review situation at his old job, and I know it's one reason he wanted to leave.

  • Amy replied 8 years ago

    Thank you, everyone!

  • Nadya replied 8 years ago

    Here I've been eyeing a pair of cobalt booties and you show up in this PERFECT outfit. I love the top with those shoes against the structure of the suit.

    Way to go on resolving this! As a manager, I can tell you that some managers are just clueless about performance reviews, feedback, and coaching. The fact that your company acknowledges that is wonderful, and the way you stood up for yourself is awesome.

  • Angie replied 8 years ago

    Sorry to comment so late, Amy.

    KILLER news and outfit! I just knew you would come out on top :)

  • Thistle replied 8 years ago

    Really like the outfit.

    Better yet, so glad you stood up for yourself. Even better that you were heard!

  • Caro in Oz replied 8 years ago

    I've been away but had to say - that's terrific, well done for hanging in there even when you didn't feel like it!!

    Love the outfit too - the boots make it "you" imo.

  • Ornella replied 8 years ago

    Fantastic turn of the events, I'm so happy for you Amy!!

    I love how you translate your mood and emotional needs into the wardrobe. You look fantastic (and I want to steal that top ever since I first saw it on you).

  • MsMary replied 8 years ago

    Just seeing this and I have to add my "Hooray" to the chorus! Congratulations on being such a powerful agent of change.

    And of course the outfit is beyond fab!

  • Katiepea replied 8 years ago

    You looked beautiful and ready to take on the world!

    I'm so glad you harnessed the energy whilst wearing this outfit and that positive outcomes resulted from the experience.

  • qfbrenda replied 8 years ago

    Great news! And beautiful outfit as well.

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